Just Like Daddy

You might be surprised how often people tell us M looks just like we do.  I have been told as much once or twice, but Spencer gets it All. THE. TIME.  Seriously, probably a few times a week.  Most of the time it’s from people who know nothing about our family and how M came to be a part of it.  Just the other day the cashier at the store went on and on about how our little boy looks JUST like his daddy. 

We are never offended or bothered.  That is often the topic of conversation with babies, “Oh my goodness he has his daddy’s eyes,” or “She looks JUST like her momma did at that age.”  It is totally natural to look at a baby and look for/notice similarities between the little one and his or her parents.  It’s just funny that we often have these “looks just like” conversations because we never expected to get to.  We typically respond with a smile or a thank you.  While we very enthusiastic about opportunities to talk about adoption, the check out line at the grocery store usually isn’t the time or place.  Sometimes it is, but sometimes it isn’t.        

I DO think that M looks like his daddy in certain ways, but because I know what his birthmomma looks like (unlike most of the people who make these comments) I mostly see pieces of her.  M looks a LOT like his birthgrandpa too.  There is this certain smile he makes that is just like his grandpa’s.  And I’m sure I’ve talked before about how cute M’s “Natalie smile” is.  Our friends who have met Natalie know exactly the smile I am talking about.     

But it’s not just strangers who think M looks like his daddy.  Often people who DO know M Bug was adopted tell us that M looks just like Spencer.  This happens a lot actually.  A few have said that it just goes to show that M was meant to be a part of our family.  I don’t necessarily think that M looking like Spence is a sign that it was meant to be.  Even if he didn’t look a thing like us, there is no doubt in my mind that we were meant to find one another.

While I think it’s kinda fun that we get to experience a bit of what biological parents get to experience as far as their kids looking like them, I think of it as coincidence, not evidence. 

To be honest, most of the time when I’m looking at M I’m not thinking about how much he looks like anyone (though don’t get me wrong, I love that he looks like his Natty).  I’m mostly thinking, “He’s SO cute!  AHHHHHH he’s SO CUTE!  Those cheeks!  I must smooch those cheeks!  I just love him!”